Re: 80's hard rock / metal and disapproving partners...?
Date: March 23, 2004 10:36AM
I found the posts in this thread to be very amusing, though, because many of them sounded as though they could have been written by me. I think I've tried (and continue to use) many of the ideas that have been suggested here. My wife's tastes in music used to include MHR stuff like Stryper, Dokken, Bon Jovi, etc. as well as AOR stuff like Journey, Foreigner, Styx, etc. She's never been into anything too heavy, though. However, over the past 10 years or so, her tastes have mellowed significantly. In the end, I just listen to "my music" whenever I have an opportunity (ie., when she's out of the house, when I'm in another room doing something, when I'm working outside or in the downstairs in the workshop, when I'm in the car without her, etc.
If you're like me, though, you probably have pretty broad taste in music. When we're together in the car or something, we just compromise. We'll listen to something we both like (The Corrs, Genesis, Tom Petty, Fleetwood Mac, The Eagles, Rod Stewart, etc.). Plus, she still likes most AOR stuff as well, so we can almost always agree on Journey, Prism, Honeymoon Suite, Boulevard, or something like that. And sometimes, as someone else suggested, we'll take turns. She'll pop in Celine Dion, and then when that's through, I'll get to give a Van Halen or Kiss album a workout. One last suggestion is that, if she's anything like my wife, she'll be more open-minded about my music if it's catchy and familiar. Therefore, I can get away with playing a Tesla g/h compilation, but she'd never want to make it through "Bust a Nut" in its entirety.
I think that, as long as you don't make a HUGE issue of it and get too pushy or anything, you'll be surprised over time at how much she does grow to enjoy some of the music you play from time to time. Maybe just try to start with the stuff in your collection that's closest to matching her musical tastes, though. In other words, if her problem with your music is that it's too heavy for her, ease up on the metal and MHR, and play more AOR around her. Pop in one of your 101 South or Dare albums rather than Cannibal Corpse or Venom.
NP - Nickelback - "The Long Road"